How to be more Patient

To conquer any problem, you have to first properly understand it.

So if you know the root cause behind your issue or problem, you can target it and rather than just quiet the problem, completely destroy it.

This article will explain to you some of the root causes behind patience and it well help you understand yourself better.

Patience as we all know is an asset.

Impatience is a frustrating feeling to have to struggle with, and we have all experienced it at some time or another. If you think back as far as you can, you will no doubt remember times as a child when you felt very impatient.

As a child you learn that the craving of "I want it now" is not always fulfilled.

How you cope with problems, and how patient you are now is greatly affected by your past.

The coping style which you learned as a child is generally same in later life. If you learned that kicking and screaming loudly  will result in your mom or dad caving in and letting you "have it now" you are likely to experience defeat in your adult life as  everyone else does not respond like mom or dad did to such behaviour.

On the other hand, if your mom or dad were firm, soothing and encouraging, you are likely to have developed a different mind-set when faced with inconveniences and potential set-backs.

I am telling 2 extremes here. The majority of us fall in the grey shades which lie within the middle of both.

It may seem unfair that your natural responses towards events in life now are so dependent upon things which happened years ago, but this is how your mind works, and that’s why the upbringing of children is a very tough but very important job.

Current events and new experiences can of course change these learned responses and styles, but it can take a lot of effort to overcome those natural feelings and become more patient.

Patience is clearly linked to someone’s level of confidence. Impatience usually appears when one feels let down, when you don't feel in control or perhaps feel that your hands are tied. You want something to happen now, but you cannot seem to do anything to speed things up. A person with plentiful levels of confidence will accept the situation as it is; they will not fight it or rail against it. Rather, they will work with it.

Patience gives you confidence and confidence allows a person to see a situation clearly and to look for different options.

As you think you can do something you find a way in which to do it. When you think you cannot do something, you do not even look for those options and opportunities; this leads to frustration and frequent waves of impatience.

If you not just want to learn how to be more patient but want to actually become more patient, you must become more confident about who you are, and believe that even if things go wrong, you will be ready tackle the problems head on.

Here is a quote that I found helpful, and hopefully it will help you too:

A man who is a master of patience is master of everything else. -George Savile