Unfortunately, discouragement is an integral part of our lives. Every time we try to do something and fail, we start to feel discouraged. It gets easy to lose any enthusiasm and motivation. Perhaps, you’ve applied for a job and the interview didn’t go as planned, or you keep going on dates month after month and cannot find the love of your life. Or maybe, you’re trying to lose weight and get into shape. You’ve successfully lost a few pounds but it seems to be the end of your progress.

No matter what the goal is, sometimes we all just say to ourselves:

“There’s no way I can do it.”

Discouragement feels like losing your inner energy. It gets very hard to commit and to stay engaged. The thing is that, when we set goals and try to achieve them, our conscious efforts are just a part of success. Our emotions and beliefs also play an important role in achieving goals. It’s hard to succeed when you don’t have the inner motivation and don’t believe in yourself. Sometimes, even if you’re completely capable of doing what you want, the sense of discouragement can undermine your efforts and make you fail. Therefore, it’s especially important to know how to overcome the feeling that limits who you are. Here are some useful tips that will help you.

1. Consider The Bigger Picture

Most often, people experience discouragement when their expectations don’t align with reality. It’s important to understand that our expectations can be unrealistic. There’s nothing wrong with dreaming big, but don’t forget that things may turn out to be different when you actually start to do what you’ve planned and learn more about it. Consider the bigger picture and manage your expectations. If you cannot achieve something now, it doesn’t mean that you should stop. Some things just might take more time and effort than you’ve expected.

2. Talk To Yourself

Your inner dialogue can work either for you or against you. We ask ourselves questions and answer them all the time so it’s important to channel your inner dialogue in the right direction. For example, instead of asking yourself, “Why is this happening to me?” or “Why do I keep failing?” ask, “How can I change the situation?” or “How can I learn from it?” This way, you will maintain a proactive mindset, doing things instead of letting things happen to you.

3. Learn From Your Failures

Most often, people feel discouraged when they fail. However, there’s nothing wrong with failing. Personal and professional growth is impossible without failures so you shouldn’t think of them as something bad. If you fail, you should just learn from the experience and use it in the future to act more effectively. This experience can educate you so it’s good for you. Learn your lesson and don’t get discouraged.


4. Celebrate Small Victories

Obviously, we all like to celebrate the big goals that we’ve managed to accomplish. However, many people don’t allow themselves to enjoy their small victories, only recognizing significant milestones. It’s easy to get discouraged when you don’t recognize your progress. Don’t hesitate to celebrate every little thing that helps you get closer to your goal. We recommend that you always break down your bigger goals into smaller ones and reward yourself at every step on the way to your biggest goal. Besides, if you see that someone’s overlooking their victories, try to always acknowledge them and you’ll see how it reflects on their confidence.

5. Don’t Compare Yourself To Others

Nothing can get you discouraged faster than comparing yourself to other people. There are so many successful people around. They have what you don’t, they’re living their best lives, and it may seem that they are better than you at everything. The truth is that success is subjective. For example, when you follow the rich and famous people on social media, you only see their wins and strengths. You know nothing about their struggles, fears, and failures. Besides, no matter how successful you are, there will always be somebody more successful than you so there’s no point in comparing yourself to others. Instead, focus on your own path and celebrate your own progress.

6. Avoid Negative Vibes

Try to avoid negativity because it can slow down your growth and make you feel discouraged. First, you should avoid negativity in your own thoughts and words. However, quite often, negativity comes from the outside. If you want to grow professionally or personally, you’ll have to become more than you are now. Many people around you might consider your high level of motivation and belief a threat to their relaxed lifestyle so they may discourage you, either consciously or unconsciously. Prioritize your positive mindset and goals over other people’s opinions and distance yourself from negative vibes.

7. Move More

If you’re feeling down, just try to go outside and breathe. Hit the gym, go for a hike, or start jogging every morning to refill your energy. Exercising can help you feel better about yourself and maintain a positive mindset. Besides, movement is great for your health. You can generate positive emotions by adopting a healthy and active lifestyle.

8. Help Others

This is a very effective method that will help you fight discouragement. If somebody needs help, don’t hesitate to help them. We feel better when we help others, and it’s almost impossible to get discouraged when you help others because discouragement occurs when we focus on ourselves. Sometimes, you can feel better just by distancing yourself for a while and focusing on someone else.



Unfortunately, discouragement and crisis are just parts of our lives, and it’s impossible to achieve your goals without feeling discouraged sometimes. The main thing is not to focus on failures and to understand that your positive mindset can work wonders. There’s nothing wrong with being unable to achieve everything you want right now. You need to manage your expectations and think of your failures as opportunities to learn. Don’t compare yourself to others and celebrate all the small victories. Move more, believe in yourself, help others, and never give up!

Rhonda Martinez

Rhonda Martinez is a marketing manager, tutor, and education blogger at LegitWritingServices. Her passion for psychology and self-help techniques serve as a base of her writing psychology-related guest posts. Rhonda practices mindful living and enjoys spending most of her free time in nature.

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