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Lack of self confidence

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By: Alison R – 7 years 5 months​ ago
Lack of self confidence

Self confidence is the trust you have in "yourself" to be able to do something.

Only you are responsible for your self confidence and  only you can fix it. These strategies will help you build and develop your self confidence:

Don’t Think about Failure

If you think about failure all of the time you will become stressed and anxious. This negativity and anxiety is poison to self confidence and should try as much to avoid it.

The reason behind this is that your actions are only a reflection of your thoughts. So thoughts of failing will bring failure and thoughts of succeeding will bring success.

Think about Your Positives

Everybody has  weaknesses, but what everybody also has are strengths. These strengths in most cases are far greater but they just simply get overlooked. By focusing on your strengths and your positives you will feel better about yourself and will build self confidence.

Take Joe for example:

Joe is the captain of the basketball team and his team and coach trust him to make the final shot to win the game, Joe feels a lack of self confidence but then reminds himself that he is a good player and he can make that shot. This way Joe gains enough self confidence to go and win the game.

 Be Caring to Your Self

Life is not just about being hard on yourself, cut yourself some slack and allow yourself to grow. By being kind to yourself you will not just gain self confidence but you will give you yourself room to fail, which will in reverse give you confidence.

 Spend Time with Positive People

By hanging around with people who are positive, you will become not just more self confident but also happy. The reason why is that these positive people will act like stimulus and motivate you to succeed.

Here is an example from real life:

Say you have the opportunity to hit the game winning shot.

In Scenario #1 your whole team supports you and believes in you, and thinks you'll get the shot in.

In Scenario #2 your team doesn't believe in you at all thinks, and feels you will miss for sure.

Which scenario would you feel more confident in?

The answer is Scenario #1. When there are positive people around you, you will have more self confidence.

Good Luck on gaining self confidence and facing your lack of self confidence!

About The Author – Alison R:​

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Alison is a freelance author, yoga enthusiast and a strong believer of self-improvement. Being in the self-help industry for over 9 years, Alison has a plethora of knowledge which she loves to share and discuss with her readers. Alison was one of the first freelance authors for and continues to contribute today.