If you have ever been in a situation where you wanted to get ahead in your life and struggled to do so, then you probably realized an important thing: it’s not easy to keep your motivation up, all the time.
You need some kind of “boost” to keep going.
Maybe you’ve felt that if only you had the right people to support you on your journey, things would be different. With the right friends who believe in you, maybe you would be 3, or even 10 times more motivated to reach the success you want.
But,… in the age we live in, people are hammered with a thousand ads a day. They are constantly distracted by their smartphones. This makes them spend less and less time truly listening and understanding others.
This is so comon that we feel rarely really understood by people.
We all feel that need for friends that listen, understand, feel what we feel, and support us.
Here are 5 Rules to follow to get the right friends in your life…
1. Never Doubt Your Social Nature
It’s important to be able to depend on yourself. But it’s absolutely crucial for your success and happiness to have absolutely no doubt that you NEED more friends in your life.
Some people have trouble just assuming that. Sometimes because they’re too proud to admit it, sometimes because they don’t know the importance of having more friends.
The right friends get you to have more of what you want every day: support with your goals, fun time, better vacations, better trips, better get-togethers, more laughter, more relationships, better birthday parties, better holidays, more impact in life, etc.
Ironically, the people who have lots of friends, are the first to admit that they need friends.
2. If You Have Problems With Socializing, Learn To Overcome Them
If you happen to have feelings of loneliness, shyness, or social anxiety, you need to learn more about them. When you know how they work, you’re ready to stop them from ruining your life.
For example, loneliness makes you feel unsafe around people. Most people also confuse it with depression. It’s tricky. If you fall in what I call “The Loneliness Trap”, chances are, you’ll start to do things that get you even further in loneliness. And that’s exactly the opposite of what you want.
The fastest way to deal with loneliness is to do some charity, reach out to old friends or relatives that can understand you. The key is to avoid staying home and making your problem worse.
3. Learn To Keep a Conversation Going
This is important because it allows you to turn strangers into actual good friends.
It’s a key social skill. And it’s about creating better and more fun conversations with people. It’s a quality that everyone looks for in a friend: the ability to have a great conversation.
A quick tip to keep a conversation going is to remember stories that you hear, whether they’re yours or not. Every time you hear an interesting story from someone else’s life, from TV, movies, documentaries, radio, or books, remember it. And then, mention it in conversations with people, if it’s related to the subject that you’re talking about.
Learn more here about how to keep a conversation going.
4. Make The Right Friends
In order to get the friends you want, the ones who will make your life better, and make you happier, there are a couple of things you need to pay attention to.
Look for opportunities that already exist in your life, to meet new people. Where do you go everyday? Where do you have coffee? Where do you get your lunch break? Do you have a hobby? Are you interested in a particular subject? Do you want to learn a sport or a dance style?
The answers to these questions are actually opportunities for you to meet new people. When you meet these people, talk to them, and get their contact information. Keep in touch and meet them later.
5. Build a Social Circle Of People That Love You
This is the ultimate situation. Where you have many friends that believe in you and love you. the key to do this is to make friends that can get along, and introduce them to each other.
When you introduce the people in your life to each other, you create a group of friends. And that is the EASIEST way to have a great social life.
Because within a group, people are much more motivated to create or participate in awesome plans to have fun and rejuvenate.
It makes the difference between having hundreds of friends that DON’T call you… and having friends that call you regularly to hang out.