The root of success arises from self confidence. If you can’t trust your abilities, qualities and judgements, nobody else will trust them either. How you perceive yourself is how others will perceive you, so your perception of yourself is critical.
These 15 strategies will help you develop self confidence and allow you to get that mental perception of yourself that will allow you to succeed.
How To Build Self Confidence:
1. Create a Goal
This is always the first step to anything. Make a commitment in your heart that you will believe in your abilities. That you will believe in your judgments. That you will become more self-confident.
2. Get to Know Yourself
Every self-help coach in the world will tell you this one tip and it is quite trite. But the only way you can help yourself is if at first you understand who you are.
What triggers your fears? What makes you feel nervous? Why do you not trust yourself?
Once you figure out everything that makes you tick, you can start building on the areas where you need improvement.
3. Groom Yourself
Your appearance greatly affects your self confidence. So even if this sounds very obvious, being clean and tidy can really stimulate your confidence. By simply taking a shower and cleaning up, you will feel a lot better about yourself.
4. Dress Good
Like the above point, your appearance greatly affects your self confidence. So if you dress good in the sense that you like what you wear. You will feel a whole lot more confident about yourself.
Note: Dressing good doesn’t really mean conforming to others likes. The only way you will build self confidence is if you are comfortable in your clothes.
5. Straight Posture
How a person hold himself greatly reflects how he feels. For example a person who is lying won’t stand straight and tall, he would probably hunch and have a closed posture.
So to build self confidence, begin to practice good posture. Stand up straight, don’t hunch your shoulders, keep your head up and don’t fidget. Just remember people who have good posture feel good about whom they are, and you want to be that type of person.
6. Think Positive (Perspective)
You need to learn how to replace negative thoughts with positive ones. This way your perspective on life will change and you will feel that you can do anything if you put your mind to it. I find the best way to put a positive twist on life is to ask why not to all your problems.
“You've done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.” – Ralph Marston
7. Play an active role
I think this is the most important step to build self confidence. You need to stop sitting on the sidelines but actually get into the game. If you continue to sit on the sidelines of life you will never achieve anything. So if this means organizing a function or involving yourself in an event, do it.
Just put in the effort, take calculated risks and begin to understand, that you have the capability to do anything.
If you continue to dwell on your shortcomings you will never be able to pick yourself up, and look forward to the future. Give gratitude to yourself where it belongs and reminisce on your successes, triumphs and accomplishments.
You will find that this self-gratitude will greatly fuel for your self confidence and that it will help you face challenges.
9. Do Things Faster
This might sound quite strange but it’s actually quite good. I noticed that when I started walking faster and doing things at a faster pace. I felt better about myself.
I figured out that this because when you do things faster, you feel busier and that makes you feel important. This feeling of importance builds self confidence and resultantly makes you feel better.
This has become quite cliché but it is fundamentally the most effective. By smiling you create a sense of happiness and a sense of self. These two things together are what create confidence.
Try to smile as much as possible :)
11. Put Emphasis on Solutions rather than Problems
Whenever you face a problem, don’t dwell on the problem itself. Look forward to solutions and put emphasis on solving the issue.
12. Work out (Exercise)
Along the same lines of appearance and self confidence, exercise and fitness has a huge role on how confident you feel about yourself.
By exercising you will improve your physical appearance; you will become more energetic, and you will kill stress. This will all add up, and you will improve your life greatly.
13. Complete small things
Taking a huge project or task can be quite overwhelming. But if break it down into chunks and complete it little by little. You will feel bursts of accomplishment when you finish those small tasks.
These feel good accomplishments will make you feel a lot better and a lot more self-confident.
14. Do something you have been procrastinating
Many times, we leave things and just don’t get time around to get to them. Try to make some room and get some done. This will make you feel great.
15. Be Prepared
You only feel insecure and self-doubting if you’re not prepared. Imagine an exam and you didn’t study, you would probably feel unconfident about your abilities.
This same thing can apply to life. If you are not prepared for something you will feel unconfident about it until you get ready.
So try to be ready for anything in life and self confidence will come automatically.
Good Luck on Building Self Confidence!