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How To Be More Social & Less Introverted

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By: Alison R – 6 years 9 months​ ago
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Being social and outgoing is a “skill” anybody can learn.

You don’t need any prerequisites or requirements to be outgoing. All you need is an open mind and the drive to change yourself for the better. These strategies will help you mould yourself in such a way that you will become not just more outgoing but more confident as well.

Start from the Basics

Forget everything people have told you about being outgoing or meeting people. To learn and understand properly you need to break this whole outgoing thing down into smaller manageable chunks.

So to begin with what does it really mean to be outgoing?

Well in essence outgoing really just means “out going” so literally what the word is just without the space. But generally speaking outgoing means to be “comfortable in social settings and interactions; confident in dealing with people especially in meeting new people”

Why is being outgoing important?

If you don’t become outgoing you will miss a huge chunk of the best parts of your life. Social unease and shyness can be crippling character traits. So not only will you miss out on good times but you will miss out on a lot of good opportunities.

Can anybody become outgoing?

Yes, every person on this planet has the potential to be outgoing. Some utilize this potential and become successful, while others just lay around in their own anguish and insecurity. It’s only up to you to decide which type of person you will be.

So now that you understand what “outgoing” is, and what it means to be outgoing.

How do you become outgoing? Here’s how:

1. Smile A lot

Body language is the first step to communication. You don’t just start talking, you probably first make eye contact, then smile, then shift your direction towards the person, then shake hands etc.

The main point is that smiling is a fundamental gesture when you communicate with anybody. So because we are working on becoming more outgoing and talkative; work on smiling as this is the first and most important step. A point should come that you instinctively smile whenever you make eye contact with anyone.

2. Ask Questions

People love talking about themselves. So if you ask people questions, not only will they enjoy the conversation, but you will build a stronger relationship with them as they will feel more important. Asking Questions is also a great way to break the ice because when they start talking, you will have if not more questions to ask than at least comments about what they are saying.  

3. Be Genuinely Interested in People

To be outgoing you have to foster a curiosity for people. You can’t become outgoing and talkative if you don’t care about what the person is saying or doing.  

4. Work on Self-Esteem and Confidence

Many people aren’t outgoing simply because they think they are not worthy of the other person. That is complete nonsense. You are just as interesting as the next person; it simply depends on how you hold yourself. Work on being more confident especially being more confident in your abilities, things you are good at.

5. Give Compliments

If you are interested in people, why not give them a compliment now and then. Compliments are great ice breakers and they also make relationships stronger.

6. Practice

Try to talk and communicate as much as possible. Contrary to common belief try to talk to a couple of strangers a day. No matter if you are buying groceries or are at the doctors office; practice making small talk.

Over time you will find that communicating and talking is one of the most enjoyable things to do and that being outgoing isn’t that hard, because it’s all in your head.


Success is a process, a quality of mind and way of being, an outgoing affirmation of life. -Alex Noble

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