Have you ever noticed, wherever you go, there are always certain people that everyone seems to be attracted to? These people have a magnetic personality and pull everyone towards them. Whether you’re in school, college, or working, you will always be able to distinguish who this “magnetic” individual is.
Individuals with this “magnetic” personality, develop skills and traits over the course of their lives to help them appear and become more likeable. And whatever path you choose in life, it never hurts to be more likeable! Developing an attractive personality is vital for attaining happiness and success.
These 5 tips on how to make everyone like you, will transform you into a more likeable and attractive person.
5 Simple & Easy Tips To Make Everyone Like You:
1. Body Language
Though you may not notice it, you do a lot of communication through your body. This communication method is very subtle but unconsciously everybody picks up on it. Therefore, having good and positive body language is very important in the attraction process. For example, if you’re sitting in class with your hand on your face and hunched over, your body language suggests you are uninterested and bored. Leaving a poor impression of yourself on the professor.
Deborah Bull once mentioned:
Body language is a very powerful tool. We had body language before we had speech, and apparently, 80% of what you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words.
Below is a list of things you should and shouldn’t do when you are trying to make somebody like you.
2. Treat People Correctly
A big reason why people are difficult to get along with is that they don’t understand how to properly treat people. Treating others appropriately is vital to making people like you. As you may have heard hundreds of times, apply the golden rule to your life. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.
Whenever you talk with people, try not to criticize and condemn them. Similarly, don’t backbite or complain about them once the conversation is over. Keep the conversation pleasant and remain positive throughout. Also, try to be as honest as possible and give sincere appreciation. By faking it you are only hurting yourself and your accountability because insincere comments are easily recognized.
Just keep in mind that your goal is to make the other person like you. You can only achieve your goal by creating a positive environment for communication. An environment, where the other individual can feel completely comfortable around you. And remember, kindness is always in style.
As Bo Lozoff said,
In the midst of global crises such as pollution, wars and famine, kindness may be too easily dismissed as a ‘soft’ issue, or a luxury to be addressed after the urgent problems are solved. But kindness is the greatest need in all those areas – kindness toward the environment, toward other nations, toward the needs of people who are suffering. Until we reflect basic kindness in everything we do, our political gestures will be fleeting and fragile.
3. Radiate Self-Confidence
I consider self-confidence to be the backbone to attraction. If you have to choose any one of these strategies to focus on, it should be this one. By portraying self-confidence you instantly make yourself a more likeable and attractive person. Try to regularly work on this ability and try to overcome all of your insecurities.
“A great figure or physique is nice, but it’s self-confidence that makes someone really attractive.” -Vivica Fox
4. Give Plentifully
Friendships and relationships are built on the foundation of giving. Try to give in every aspect of your life and you will receive if not the same but more in return. But always remember to be realistic and only give according to your means.
But the idea of “giving” does not only refer to materialistic things. You can “give” to others by passing on knowledge and experiences as well. Essentially, try helping others in any way you can!
In The Art of Loving, the author, Erich Fromm states,
What does one person give to another? He gives of himself, of the most precious he has, he gives of his life. This does not necessarily mean that he sacrifices his life for the other—but that he gives him of that which is alive in him; he gives him of his joy, of his interest, of his understanding, of his knowledge, of his humor, of his sadness—of all expressions and manifestations of that which is alive in him. In thus giving of his life, he enriches the other person, he enhances the other’s sense of aliveness by enhancing his own sense of aliveness. He does not give in order to receive; giving is in itself exquisite joy. But in giving he cannot help bringing something to life in the other person, and this which is brought to life reflects back to him.
5. Be Attentive & Caring
Making somebody like you is not a game! Treat whoever you meet with respect and kindness and give the other person your undivided attention. Practice being attentive and learn how to genuinely care about the person you are talking to.
By being real and genuine, you can significantly increase your likeability. Remember, friendship is a two-way road, you can’t expect somebody to be your friend, without being theirs in return.
As Anthony Robbins said,
Some of the biggest challenges in relationships come from the fact that most people enter a relationship in order to get something: they’re trying to find someone who’s going to make them feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last is if you see your relationship as a place that you go to give, and not a place that you go to take.
No matter where you go or what you become, developing an attractive personality is vital for attaining happiness and success. Try practicing these 5 tips on how to make people like you. Most importantly, remember to be genuine and be yourself!