Every single thing you do in your life is always done to make somebody (This includes you) or something like you. It's just a part of life that you can't deny. Attraction and likability are what make our world go around. If we weren't attracted to other people, our race would have died out a long time ago and I'm not just talking about the reproduction aspect of it. Because without attraction teamwork and cooperation wouldn't exist; everybody would live for themselves.
But luckily for you attraction does exist, and you can use that to your advantage to make your life more fulfilling by learning to be a more likable person.
10 powerful ways to make people like you:
I know this step has become quite cliché but smiling in my books is the best and most powerful way to make people like you. I mean you instantly create a connection with the other person and send the universal message of happiness and pleasure. This message 99% of the time triggers a return response from the other person in the form of a smile as well.
Why this matters is that not just do you feel emotionally connected to a smile but physically as well. Whenever you smile, a small endorphin is released in your brain which promotes a feeling of well-being and comfort. In most cases, people tend to associate this feeling with the person who helped to trigger it.
Let us always meet each other with smile, for the smile is the beginning of love. - Mother Teresa
So whenever you are in a public or are even at home try to smile as much as possible because it will make not just you but the others around you feel better.
2. Maintain Eye-Contact
Your eyes play a huge role in making people like you because of how much communication is done through them. By maintaining eye contact with the other person you project confidence which is universally attractive.
Eye contact also signals openness and honesty, which allows the other person to feel more comfortable around you.
3. Control the Conversation
When you talk try to keep a 70% to 30% ratio in the other persons favor, meaning you only talk 30% of the conversation while the other person talks the other 70%.
This might initially seem strange, but when you meet new people and don’t have much in common this can really help. People are very interested in themselves and if you take the time to notice they love to talk about themselves. So whenever you have a conversation let the other person do most of the talking.
You will notice at the end that you will have learned a lot more about the person which you can use in future conversations plus the fact that the other person will feel very satisfied and content that they had a good time.
Note: This doesn’t mean that you let the other person control the conversation. Keep control of the conversation by asking questions and responding when needed. Don’t become a plant.
4. Positivity and Happiness
Positivity and happiness are universally attractive and liked. Think about it for yourself. Who would you rather be around, a person who is always worrying and is sad or a person who always takes the “glass half full perspective” and is contagiously happy?
I think the answer should be quite unanimous.
A positive attitude causes a chain reaction of positive thoughts, events and outcomes. It is a catalyst and it sparks extraordinary results. - Wade Boggs
So going forward try to become a more positive and happy person and radiate your light to the rest of the world.
5. Open Posture
Unless a person is comfortable around you, they will never like you.
So to build this level of trust you should develop an open posture. Make yourself loose and have your arms to the side. Stand up straight and expose your neck. Essentially just don’t separate yourself from the world in any way.
Note: Hunching over or folding your arms and legs are big no no’s
6. Use Body Language
55% of communication is done through body language. That’s why this step is so critical in making people like you.
You have to learn to fully utilize your entire body when you communicate. This makes you seem so much more vibrant, alive and confident. This might seem small but it makes a big difference and makes the other person feel that you care.
So for example rather than just saying yes you should nod your head, smile, and use the rest of your body to show your approval.
38% of communication is done through the tone of your voice.
So whenever in conversation maintain a pleasant tone and try to talk a little bit slower than the other person. This creates a contrast in your speech, which is very effective in making people like you.
Also, try to utilize the tone of your voice to emphasize on feelings and emotions you have throughout the conversation. This makes your voice more animated and fun.
Be genuinely interested in the other person, and for those few minutes make them the only attention in your life.
9. Show Kindness and Compassion
Many a time’s people focus so much on the other things that they forget the basics when it comes to attraction. Display kindness and offer compassion wherever possible.
This will not be forgotten on the person and will help you in the process of making them like you.
10. Be Yourself and Have Fun
The more genuine you are the better it will be for the both of you. So don’t try to be somebody you are NOT and be yourself.
Friends can help each other. A true friend is someone who lets you have total freedom to be yourself - and especially to feel. Or, not feel. Whatever you happen to be feeling at the moment is fine with them. That's what real love amounts to - letting a person be what he really is. - Jim Morrison
Points to Remember
For some odd reason, most people automatically associate likeability and attraction with physical appearances. These people have it all wrong. While physical appearances do play a role in likeability it is a tiny one and when you get down to it, it is your personality and behavior that really make a difference. Just think would you rather be around a beautiful person with an ugly personality or a normal person with a beautiful personality?
These steps on "how to make people like you" don't have particular order; put them all together in your unique way to create the ultimate effect.
Hints and Tips
- Look clean and dress accordingly, you wouldn’t attract a high-class business person wearing dirty clothes
- Maintain a high level of personal hygiene
- Never swear or use foul words, it’s extremely unattractive if for not plain rude
- Never put somebody down in your conversations, and treat everybody equal
- Don’t pretend to be somebody who you aren’t, after a while your veil will fall and that person might not be interested in who you’re not
Good Luck in making people like you!