You can’t ever have complete control over your life, but what you can have is a certain level of confidence in your chances.
These strategies will well help you develop the right perspective to control your life:
1. What does it mean to control your life?
Before you take control of your life you first must understand what “taking control” means.
Taking control of life simply means is that you have a certain level of confidence in your chances. It simply means that you feel that you have a higher probability that by doing x work you will get y results.
2. Inside and Outside Control
I was doing some reading one day when I came across this quote:
“You cannot always control what goes on outside. But you can always control what goes on inside.”
This quote seems very simple but if you analyze it, this quote has a very deep message.
You can’t always control what happens around you but you can control is what you do about it. You can control your thoughts and you can control your emotions and through this you can control your surroundings and external factors.
So whenever you face a stressful problem that is out of your reach, do as much as you can on your own. Take full control of yourself first and you will find that the external factors you can’t control will automatically begin to fill in.
3. Stop Blaming Others
People have a habit to blame others for problems in their life.
So if you want to take control of your surroundings and eventually your life hold yourself accountable for everything. This way rather than blaming others you will discover your role in the problem and therefore when you know how to fix the problem, you will feel you have more control over it.
4. You can’t Control Everything
You simply can’t control everything. So if you are trying to control everything you are out of luck, as this task is impossible.
You only have complete control over yourself and by applying this control over yourself you will gain control over your external factors.
For example you can look at life and death. You are not able to control when you will die but what you can control is eating healthy and doing things safely so you can live longer. Understand your limits.
5. Simplify your Life
To take control of your life you must first be able to maneuver your life easily. So if you can make your life more organized, you will have greater control over your life.
6. Be informed about your Surroundings
If you are well aware about what is going on around you, you will feel calmer and more in control. This happens because once you remove this fog of uncertainty out of your life your vision is enhanced and you are able to plan ahead. By planning ahead you will take control of your life.